Divorce is a difficult and emotionally charged event, even in the best of circumstances. It can become more complicated if your ex is contentious and petulant throughout the process. This is often the case when someone goes through a divorce with a narcissist.
By definition, a narcissist lives in their own world and is only able to focus on themselves. They’re unable to distinguish reality from the world they’ve created in their mind. They’re often combative — particularly when they don’t get their way.
Keep receipts and document everything
One of the most important things to remember is that narcissists will twist reality to meet their own narrative. Because of this, you need to be able to prove every claim you make. However, the narcissist may not believe the proof. The proof, such as copies of communication and receipts for purchases, is often only accepted by the court and never the narcissist.
Avoid emotional responses
A narcissist begins to feel more powerful if they can invoke emotions in others. When you’re having a conversation with your ex, don’t allow any emotions to creep into your responses. Remain business-like and almost robotic. If possible, consider using only written communication, such as text messages, emails or special apps to communicate.
Prepare for a lengthy battle
One tactic that a narcissist might use during a divorce is trying to drag it on so that it costs you more money and takes up more of your time. Preparing for this from the start can be beneficial because it can help minimize stress. It helps to have trusted, experienced legal guidance throughout the process.