Parents in California going through a divorce should always keep their kids in mind. There are a few good ways you can protect them during this difficult time.
Encourage a strong relationship with your kids
Children do best when they have a strong relationship with both parents. Even if you and your spouse are having a lot of disagreements and your split is not mutual, it’s important to continue to encourage your kids to have a strong relationship with both of you. Although those relationships will now be separate, you will be showing them that you both still care and will always be there for them. Children are stronger than you might think.
Consider an alternative means for divorce
Getting a divorce by traditional means through the court can be stressful for everyone, but it can be even more so for your kids. You can better protect them by using alternative methods to end your marriage such as collaborative divorce or mediation. Both options give you better control over your divorce and allow you to negotiate with your spouse in better ways so that you can come to solutions that work for your entire family.
Avoid fighting in front of them
Parents going through a contentious divorce often make the mistake of fighting in front of their children. That can be emotionally damaging for the kids, who can suffer for years after being exposed to it. You and your spouse should always keep the children in mind and be as cordial as possible when you have to be around each other. If you have to argue, make sure the kids aren’t around and do it in private.
Work together to create a co-parenting plan
Your children need both of you. As a result, during your divorce, you should work together to create a co-parenting plan that works for both of you. Keep in mind that creating this plan and sticking with it shows them that while you are no longer going to be married, you’re both still 100% in their lives and love them.