When California parents go through a divorce, their children always feel the effects. However, there are some steps parents can take to prioritize the needs of their children during and after their divorce. Understanding how to keep your divorce child-centered can help your children have a healthy and happy transition into this next chapter of their lives.
Being emotionally available
There is no avoiding the fact that divorce is an emotionally taxing experience. Even in the most amicable divorces, the fear of an unknown future and the sadness about the end of your marriage are present. With that in mind, your children must face their own emotional turmoil when your marriage ends.
While focusing on your mental and emotional health, make yourself emotionally available to your children. Experts agree that children need reassurance during a divorce as they seek stability and safety in the face of uncertainty.
Avoid court
You and your spouse do not have to settle your divorce in front of a family law judge. Instead, you have the legal right to choose a collaborative divorce that allows you to make decisions about finances, child custody and every other aspect of divorce. Working with a mediator to settle your divorce out of court also provides confidentiality that protects your children from hearing things that you don’t want them to hear.
Forget about revenge
If your divorce isn’t amicable, it’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to get even with your ex. Unfortunately, children suffer the brunt of the burden when their parents go to war with one another. Instead of focusing on revenge, focus on your future and your children’s futures.
As a parent, your primary responsibility is to your children. These tips can help you remain child-focused while dealing with your divorce.